Lessons to Teach My Carefree Black Girl Before She Learns Shame | truly tafakari


Excellent read. If you have a daughter like I do feel free to read this.

Educating a Friend

  • Me: So, let's say that you're at school and you see a guy you know. I mean, you guys talk every once in a while and he's pretty cool, but you're not like friends or anything. You just talk to him every once in a while.
  • Guy Friend: What's his name?
  • Me: I don't know. Frank?
  • Guy Friend: No.
  • Me: Okay, fine. His name is Will. Okay?
  • Guy Friend: I don't think it really suits him, but okay.
  • Me: ...So anyway, you're at school during lunchtime and you see Will. So, you notice Will's not eating anything. That's when you realize that Will has no lunch, no money for lunch, and no way of getting either. He's just sitting there like he normally would. He's not acting any differently and he's not asking anyone for anything. Not money, not a fry, not even a salt packet, but you know he's gotta be hungry. So, what do you do?
  • Guy Friend: Do I have any money?
  • Me: Yeah. You have enough for you and another meal.
  • Guy Friend: Duh, I buy him lunch.
  • Me: Okay, cool. So, like you said, you buy him lunch. You buy your lunch and you buy his lunch and you go over and hand it to him. And, he says, "Wow. You know, that's really nice of you, but I wasn't gonna ask anyone for lunch. I was probably just gonna wait until I got home to eat." And, then you say--
  • Guy Friend: Nah, it's cool.
  • Me: Exactly. You say, "Nah, it's cool. I'm just being nice. It's a gift." And, Will says, "You know, that's awesome. You're really nice, bro." And, after that, you guys start hanging out. You guys are like really good buds. You are always hanging out and laughing and just having a good time. So, you guys are friends for a few months, and it's tons of fun. Then, one day, you go up to Will and you say, "Hey, Will, you know, I've been thinking, and I kinda want that five bucks."
  • Guy Friend: What five bucks?
  • Me: Hold on. I'm getting there. So, Will says, "What five bucks?" To which, you reply, "Well, we've been hanging out for a long time and it's been really fun, but like, I've done a lot of really nice things for you. Like, I'm always nice to you and I always listen and do things you wanna do, so I was thinking that because I've been so nice, you should pay me back that five bucks I spent to get your lunch right before we started really hanging out."
  • Guy Friend: What? Why would I--
  • Me: I'm not done yet. So, then Will looks kinda hurt and he says, "But I thought you were just being nice. I thought that was just a gift." So, you say, "Whether or not it was a gift, don't you think you kinda owe me that five bucks since I've been so nice to you?" And, Will says, "No. I don't think I owe you that!" And you get mad, so you say, "Well, I think that you do, so I think you're being really shitty and stuck up about this and I feel like I've been completely wronged."
  • Guy Friend: Oh, my God. That's so fucked up of me. I would never do that to Will. Will was nice. We were buds. That's way screwed.
  • Me: I know, right? Hey, just wondering, have you ever heard of this fictional place called "The Friendzone?"
  • Guy Friend: Well, yeah, but...
  • Guy Friend: ...
  • Guy Friend: ...
  • Guy Friend: oh


May your natural hair grow strong and and plentiful and your edges be full and mighty.

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White women have always been and forever will be obsessed, borderline jealous, of the black female body. Now that they see black women owning our bodies and doing so effortlessly, they try to imitate and profit from the very same thing they use to criticize.
They went from gawking at our bodies in cages to gawking at our bodies on stages and its hypocrisy at its finest.

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i didnt get to talk shit last night 

so i just wanted to say that your team was trash last night


all i want is to give my future kid the happiest, most loving childhood ever


Nobody was talmbout all this protection of privacy invasion shit when my nudes leaked
This is why we need meninism


i remember when i first got on tumblr i uploaded this pic of my girl at the time and errybody was sayin her face was beat but at the time my hood wasnt up on the slang and beat meant a bitch was ugly so i joaned the shit out like 4.7 bitches before somebody inboxed me what it meant that was wild



all i learned from this nudes leak debacle is that beyonce don’t fuck with jay-z like that nigga prolly in the cut waitin for pics and all he gettin is emojis


beyonce send that nigga polaroid nudes, in a case that only open wit his finger print, by pony express and that shit burst in to flames after 4 seconds like a snapchat.

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Being black is not an accessory for us. We ARE black.

When it’s “cool” AND when it’s life threatening.

Meanwhile all the little “I’m going through my black phase” white people are nowhere to be found.

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"For the white man to ask the black man if he hates him is just like the rapist asking the raped, or the wolf asking the sheep, ‘Do you hate me?’ The white man is in no moral position to accuse anyone else of hate! Why, when all of my ancestors are snake-bitten, and I’m snake-bitten, and I warn my children to avoid snakes, what does that snake sound like accusing me of hate-teaching?"

Malcolm X, The Autobiography of Malcolm X (via owning-my-truth)

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